Death is inevitable,it is a solid fact,the one thing that we are always sure about from birth.Yet it is something that we spend most of our life fearing,trying to escape,avoid,delay,as long as we possibly can.Yet death isn’t always something fear.Death is a new chapter,a new place,the next step.
Recently I lost a person that was such a big figure in my life.There wasn’t a day that passed where I didn’t mention their name,ask how they were,or think about them in some way.So now that they are gone,do we simply forget,or do we relish in the memories?.
How hard it is to stop doing that.To not say,”I wonder how x is today,?”.Or to stop thinking.”X would like this,”
Why does it take so long until we are able to look back on the times that they were prominent in our life.Where they were in their prime and happiest.Why does it hurt us to think of them.
Many of us say “I don’t want to forget them,”,but by denying ourselves the memories of them,maybe even the simple reminder of what there voice sounded like,that is what we are doing,forgetting.
So don’t lock away the reminders of them,the memories,the pictures,the videos the cards they sent you,there clothes.Revel in them.They are your loved ones.Speak there names like you always did and laugh at the silly things they did or said.Remember everything,even the not so good times and if you do that,the person you have lost isn’t really dead,just not there.
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very, very, true.